Swingles

In my very young years, every time I slept with a woman I thought that I was in love, I was confusing love with sex. As I got older I was less confused, don’t get me wrong, I still had lots of sex, but didn’t fall in love with every woman I made love to slept with, see even now I still get a bit confused. Making love and having sex are not the same thing. Even though you can still have sex with the one you love you can’t make love to a woman you don’t love, but you can have sex with her. Am I confusing you.When one of my short term partners would tell me that she didn’t want to see me anymore or had found another man, or in 1 case another woman, I would get all sad and morose, but now looking back on it, I wasn’t sad at losing the person only the constant exciting sex that was always on tap. When you are not living with the person the sex is always exciting, because it is clandestine and spontaneous. When you are with a long term live-in partner you have to work at keeping the sex exciting, and sometimes this is not easy. You may start to confuse sex with love, just because the sex isn’t what it was when you, as a couple, were new it doesn’t necessarily mean that the love has gone, but a lot of people think this way. You have to make room for other things in your life like kids, work, home duties, etc. So remember leave a little time for yourself and your partner, and think of ways to spice up your sex life. A trip down to your local sex shop could be the tonic you as a couple need.

So don’t let the sex go stale, and don’t confuse the 2 (sex and love). I know lots of couples that are happily in love, and lots of others who are happily in sex, the latter usually are not long term partners. The couples that are unhappy together usually blame sex or money, and both are silly reasons to get in the way of the friendship that has developed along with the love that was there.

Another thing, life can become too serious, you need to laugh a lot, and it is much better to laugh with someone than at someone, try to make the one you love have a good old belly laugh once in a while. My wife knows that all she has to do to get me to laugh is to press the ear of Humphrey the Humping Dog or Spanky the Monkey, both of these plush toys she bought for me from the Love Shop, and they never fail to bring a smile to my dial.

Have I mentioned movies, adult of course, they are renowned to add some spice to your sex lives, you might even learn something from watching them. A word of advice though, let your wife chose the title, cos if you are like me you will buy the movie Cum Shots Number 4, 3 hours of cum shots, no story line but plenty of action. Great for some quality time alone, but not quite what the missus is into, I have never known a woman who just wanted to see cum shots, she wants a story line. Take her down to the Love Shop or the equivalent in your area and let her chose what she wants to watch, believe me you will thank me for that advice, and after you watch the movie together you will thank her. I plug the Love Shop because I can guarantee that she will feel comfortable in that store, it is set up to reflect fun not sleeze.

Talk to each other, after all whether you are in love with your partner or love your partner, whichever way you want to put it, she should also be your best friend. I know my wife is my best friend, I can talk about anything with her, we only watch TV when it is getting late in the evening, it helps put us to sleep. Most of our leisure time is spent sitting on our patio talking about anything that comes to mind, and do you know what, I never get bored, listening to her or talking to her.